在现实生活中，在爱情的延续过程中，很可能会有破裂和间断。首先，一个人很难在某种体验中恒久不变。睡眠会打断清醒，而美梦或噩梦又会打断睡眠本身；睡眠也可能会掩盖或增强一个人在清醒时对爱人的感觉。不论怎样，感觉已经变了。一个人清醒时，不能恒定不变地盯着或者全神贯注地思考一件事情，就算再无他物，他也一定会眨眼。更有可能的是，他会为寻求差异或出于必要，而去看其他东西。他可能会转向思考股票市场，或者对在上班路上看到的打桩机的运作着迷。他一天当中，大部分时间注意力集中在工作上。而当他关门走出办公室时，可能会转而想起爱人。但是，一坐到办公桌前，他的视线又集中在那儿的文件和数据上了。
不论是痛苦还是快乐，都能转移爱人的注意力，使他对自己的爱不再专注。人们会专注于痛苦，而忽视一切。因为一根脚趾受了伤，一个人可能会暂时忘记他的爱人。过度饮食的乐趣可能让人完全沉醉，这种快乐在某个时期甚至可能会让人对自己的爱人也感到厌烦。最大的干扰通常是他自己，一个人可能专注于一时的当务之急、自身的忧虑、发展和快乐，而忽视其他一切事物。
爱情固然迷人，但一个人的生活或者爱情都不可能恒久不变。爱人最好只是用诗人欧内斯特？道森的话来说一句：“我会一直忠于你，用我自己的方式。”
心灵小语
爱一个人的方式是会变的，也许是因为随着时间的流逝，心境的变化，或是环境的不同。但爱着的那颗心，是不易动摇的。
记忆填空
1.____ the more curious questions that can be asked about love is this：____one feels romantic love， does he feel it in breaks， with interruptions or__ ， or does he feel it continuously， without interruption or change？
2. As he____the door to his office， his thoughts may turn to his love，____sitting at his desk， his eyes fix____the print and figures there.
佳句翻译
1. 在现实生活中，在爱情的延续过程中，很可能会有破裂和间断。
译__________________________
2. 最大的干扰通常是他自己，一个人可能专注于一时的当务之急、自身的忧虑、发展和快乐，而忽视其他一切事物。
译__________________________
3. 爱情固然迷人，但一个人的生活或者爱情都不可能恒久不变。
译__________________________
短语应用
1. It is difficult to suppose that one can experience anything continuously.
suppose that：假如（从句）；推断……
造________________________
2. His eyes fix on the print and figures there.
fix on：确定；使集中于
造________________________
每周写一封爱的信
Once a Week，Write a Heartfelt Letter
佚名 / Anonymous
This is an exercise that has helped to change many lives， assisting people in becoming more peaceful and loving. Taking a few minutes each week to write a heartfelt letter does many things to you. Picking up a pen or typing on a keyboard slows you down long enough to remember the beautiful people in your life. The act of sitting down to write helps to fill your life with gratitude.
Once you decide to try this， you’ ll probably be amazed at how many people appear on your list. Your parents， your spouse， your children， your friends， your colleagues...Even if you don’ t have many people in your life to whom you feel you can write， go ahead and write the letter to someone you don’ t know instead—perhaps to an author who may not even be living， whose works you admire. Or to a great inventor or thinker from the past or present. Part of the value of the letter is to gear your thinking toward gratitude. Writing the letter， even if it isn’ t sent， would do just that.
The purpose of your letter is very simple： to express love and gratitude. Don’ t worry if you’ re awkward at writing letters. This isn’ t an order from the head but a gift from the heart. If you can’ t think of much to say， start with short little notes like， “Dear Jasmine， I woke up this morning thinking of how lucky I am to have people like you in my life. Thank you so much for being my friend. I am truly blessed， and I wish for you all the happiness and joy that life can bring. Love， Richard.”
Not only does writing and sending a note like this focus your attention on what’ s right in your life， but the person receiving it will， in all likelihood， be extremely touched and grateful. Often， this simple action starts a spiral of loving actions whereby the person receiving your letter may decide to do the same thing to someone else， or perhaps will act and feel more loving toward others.
Write your first letter this week. I’ ll bet you’ ll be glad you did.
这是一项有利于改变人生的练习，它能使人们变得温和、富有爱心。每星期花几分钟写一封情真意切的信，会让你受益颇多。拿起笔或敲击键盘，能使你心境平和，让你陶醉于对生命中善良人们的美好回忆中。坐下来写信，能使你对生活充满激情。
一旦你决定试一下，你就会为有那么多人出现在你的名单上而感到吃惊。你的父母、配偶、孩子、朋友、同事……如果你觉得出现在你生命中的人都不值得你给他们写信，那就给一个素不相识的人写封信吧——他可以是一位早已过世的作家，其作品很令你欣赏；也可以是已故或健在的某位伟大发明家或思想家，写信的部分价值就在于它会让感激之情在你心中蔓延。即使写好后不寄出，也同样能实现它的价值。
写信的目的很简单：就是表达爱意与感激。你无须为不擅长写信而忧虑。感情诉诸笔端不是大脑施令，而是内心情感的真实流露。如果你不知道该写些什么，不妨以这种短笺形式开始：“亲爱的贾斯明，今天早上醒来，想到我的生命有你相伴，真是我的福分。我非常感激生活能赐予我你这样的朋友。我感到很幸福，也希望将我的幸福和快乐一并带给你。爱你的，理查德。”
写好并寄出这样一封信能使你的注意力集中在生活的积极面，同时也会令收信者非常感动，从而心存感激。通常，这一简单的行为会引发一连串爱心行动。收到你的信的人，可能会决定也写这样一封信给另一个人，他或许对他人更充满爱心。
从这周开始，写你的第一封信吧！我保证你会因此而高兴的。
心灵小语
每星期花几分钟写一封情真意切的信，会让你受益良多：使你心境平和，陶醉于对生命中善良人们的美好回忆中，还能使你对生活充满激情。
记忆填空
1. Even____you don’t have many people in your life to whom you feel you can__ ， go ahead and write the letter to someone you don’t know instead—perhaps to an author____may not even be living， whose works you admire.____to a great inventor or thinker from the past or present.
2. Not____does writing and sending a note like this____your attention on what’s right in your life， but the person receiving it will， in all likelihood， be extremely____and grateful.
佳句翻译
1. 每星期花几分钟写一封情真意切的信，会让你受益颇多。
译__________________________
2. 一旦你决定试一下，你就会为有那么多人出现在你的名单上而感到吃惊。
译__________________________
3. 写信的目的很简单：就是表达爱意与感激。
译__________________________
短语应用
1. I woke up this morning thinking of...
wake up：醒来；醒；唤醒；使振作；使觉醒
造________________________
2. ...your letter may decide to do the same thing to someone else.
decide to do：决定做……
造________________________
你就这样地来吧
Come as You Are
佚名 / Anonymous
Come as you are； do not loiter over your toilet. If your braided hair has loosened， if the parting of your hair be not straight， if the ribbons be not fastened， do not mind.
Come as you are； do not loiter over your toilet.
Come， with quick steps over the grass.
If the red come from your feet because of the dew， if the rings of bells upon your feet slacken， if pearls drop out of your chain， do not mind.
Come， with quick steps over the grass.
Do you see the clouds wrapping the sky？
Flocks of cranes fly up from the further riverbank.
The anxious cattle run to their stalls in the village.
Do you see the clouds wrapping the sky？
Come as you are； do not loiter over your toilet.
Let your work be. Listen， the guest has come.
Do you hear， he is gently shaking the chain which fastens the door？